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How to ask a girl out over text without being awkward

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How to ask a girl out over text without being awkward

Dating, hooking up, meeting, hanging out etc are all normal and encouraged activities that are carried out between people, especially people of the opposite sex. However, it is well within the normal activities of a man to ask a lady out, if as a man you have tried to ask a lady out once or twice you will understand the gravity of the embarrassment that follows when you ask a girl out and things become awkward. That is why it seems somewhat safe to ask a girl out over text. Below are a couple of templates to give you a warm start.

Text templates on how to ask a girl out over text


01“Hello (Her name), I remember you told me you had tons of work to do today, and I happen to be in a restaurant so I want to get you something, what would you like?”

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02“Wow, I really didn’t know you schooled there too. I still do keep in touch with a couple of my friends from there so it’s a good thing we met. Would you like to come by sometime so I can introduce you? They would be really glad to meet you.”


03“Hi, you are having a fine day I guess. I know you are very good at math and I have this test I need to prepare for, do you mind putting me through on some things? I would be really grateful.”


04“Hi, I know this is like a very spontaneous request but, I was wondering if it would be okay by you if we went out for a couple of drinks. I understand you might be busy so if it’s okay…”

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05“I know you must have heard of the new band coming into town, guess what, I have got two tickets to the live show. Would you be so kind as to grace me with your presence?”


06“So Starbucks just released a new flavor, would you like to try it? You should! I bet you would like it. I can grab a cup for you on my way from work, what do you say?”


07“I really do not want this to be awkward so I am just going to say it, would you mind going to the movies with me? I heard there is a cool new blockbuster out and I would not mind watching it, hopefully with you.”

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08“I was walking home yesterday and I saw this weird looking guy beside me, so I immediately thought it would be better if I crossed over to the other side, just as I was about to……..Okay so if you would like to hear the rest of this amazing thing that happened to me I would have to tell you over drinks…. I know you don’t like suspense!! What time can we make it?”


09“Hey, are you free later today? I know this great place they sell tasty huge white lobsters, I know right!! I would like to take you there today by 4, what do you say? At least you get to see a white lobster…”


10“We have been talking for a while now, I do not really know how to ask a girl out over text but I really want us to take it a step further, … will you go on a date with me. You can pick the time and place or if you don’t mind we can go bowling this weekend. What do you think?”


You ask a girl out over text and she says “NO”


11“Hi, it’s okay, I was expecting you to say no although I was really really really hoping for a yes, next time I would invite you out at least with a couple of hours heads up. Have a wonderful day.”

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12Couldn’t resist giving it a try though… I will still keep my fingers crossed. Talk to you later.”


13“You didn’t respond to the text I sent to you, I guess you are really busy, I will leave you to it. Let me know when you will be free to chat.”


14“Imagine I was this lonely lost puppy who’s wandered off and only your “YES” could get me back home to safety… I know you love dogs… will you say a pretty little “yes” now??”

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15“Ohhhhh come on, I would be nice, and I promise not to get drunk or hold your hands or even stare at your adorable face all day… I really won’t do any of that. What do you say?”


You ask a girl out over text and she says “YES”


16“Great, if I had known you would say yes I would have asked you long ago. So happy though, see you in a bit.”


17“You know what, I held my breath and I wasn’t going to breathe until you said yes, and I just exhaled… I promise you would have much fun.”

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18“Glad you agreed to come, my friends would really be jealous of me, haha. See you around as planned… Take care.”


19“Okay, that is so good. I can’t wait for the weekend to come. I look forward to watching you smile all day.”

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20“I have to be honest with you, I didn’t know you were going to say yes, guess who the happiest man on earth is right now… today has been super boring. I would be at your place in a few.”




To ask a girl out over text you have to be yourself and not be pushy, If you have met her a couple of times take note of her likes, find out if you both have anything in common and hinge on that as common grounds to get closer, listen to her comments or recommendations. For example, if she refers you to watch a movie or read a book, you actually doing it has won her heart half way already if not all the way. So long as you are not having a verbal or face to face conversation with her she can only imagine your intentions or emotions from the words you write. Basically, to ask a girl out over text you should study her, find out her likes, man up and give it a go.

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