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20+ of the Best Text Messages to Send to Your Ex-Girlfriend

20+ of the Best Text Messages to Send to Your Ex-Girlfriend

It’s important to make sure that your ex-girlfriend is single again before you try to win her back.

If you don’t have any close friends from whom to get information on her current relationship status, then text messages to her can be a good alternative for obtaining this information.

Below, we have developed some effective text messages to send to your ex-girlfriend, and we feel confident that you’ll get good results.


Effective text messages to send to your ex-girlfriend: when you’re testing whether or not she will text you back


01“Hi, Jenna. It’s Will.”
This is an all-time classic message for testing whether or not she will reply. It’s safe, and you’ll be OK whatever the result.


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02“Hey Marie, this is Hubert. I think we need to talk.”
This text message works because it is straightforward. It uses no hints whatsoever, and you are being clear about what you want.
You may sound serious to her, and she may buy into that.


03“Lisa, I hope you’re okay. Can we talk, please?”
This text message works because it is a direct question to which she is likely going to answer. Besides, you sound like you really need to talk to her.
However, you shouldn’t use this type of message if you want to avoid sounding desperate.


04“I miss you, Chloe.”
This text message works like a charm. She will respond to tell you either to stop texting her or to keep texting her.
She may act like she doesn’t understand where you’re coming from, but it will likely trigger a response.


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05“Hey Becky, it’s been a while. How was your day?”
Asking about her day is the easiest way to charm your ex-girlfriend into responding to your texts.
Even when she might not want to talk to you, she might be tempted to reply to a simple question about her day.


Effective text messages to send to your ex-girlfriend: when she will likely text you back with a nice response


06“Thanks for not blocking me on your phone. In fact, it’s nice to know that you’re OK, Marge. See, I’ve been doing lots of worrying and thinking about you. It’s really always been about you. “
This is a good way to respond if she texts you back with something nice. It also works wonderfully as the first step towards revealing that you want to win her back.
By sounding affectionate, you may be able to lower your ex’s defenses even further.


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07“With one text message from you, I am already laughing like never before. I sorely miss your funny quips and comments. I miss you. Anyway, how is the battlefield of love for you these days? “
Every girl likes to be praised in one way or another. This is one way to get the conversation started. You can accentuate your joy with emojis to create a bigger effect.
This line should work because it allows you to discreetly express how you feel about her. The question requires an answer, and it can make the conversation longer.


08“I was at the Columbus Fountain last weekend, you know the big one on East 42nd Street?
At this party thrown by a workmate, all of these memories just came rushing back to me, and it was really hard to handle. The memories of us at the fountain came back to me.”

Bringing back memories with a girl that you dated can be powerful, so it may work with your ex-girlfriend.
If she knows you well, she will ask about your intentions. It may extend the conversation about the specific memory that you mentioned, which can be a good sign.


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09“I am okay too, just working and getting on as usual. Here’s the real point of this midnight text message: I need you back in my life, Lea. There’s no BS and no fooling around here; I mean it. “
If you want to show that you are serious about your suggestion, this is the way to phrase your text message.
Even a skeptical ex-girlfriend would be feel inclined to give you a little extra attention. It allows you to come off as clear-minded and certain about what you want.



10“I’ve been better. Thanks for asking. You’re still the only person that ever asks about how I am feeling. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I am open to us getting back together, if you are.
I am single, and I’m done with all of this playing around. I know that we fell apart in a terrible way, but it’s been about three years now. I am up for a second shot with you, Annie, and it’s as long as you’re willing to work on things too.”

This text message works because it can make you sound romantic, thoughtful, clear-minded, and mature.
It also shows that you still remember the break-up, but it doesn’t force you to apologize all over again.


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What if she texts you back with a defensive or a rude response


11“You’re right to feel angry with me. Thanks for not blocking me, which you could have done and should have done considering the way I treated you when we were together.
However, I have been working on things over these past six months to improve as a person, and now, I am asking for a second chance with you.”

If you want to calm things with an angry ex-girlfriend, this is the text message that you want to send.
You will likely come off as responsible, sensible, and mature, and she may be tempted to respond in a more positive way.


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12“I am sorry if I’ve pissed you off, coming into your DMs like that. However, I am not messing with you, and I promise that I am not pranking you.
Instead, I am wondering about your current relationship status. I’m asking because I was hoping that you’re single right now. More importantly, I’d like for us to get back together.”

Responding to her rude response with a serious text message about getting back together is the ultimate way to win her back.
This text messaging makes you sound serious about your feelings, and it can show that you’re ready to work things out with her.


13“Trudy, please, just give me one minute. I just need you to know that I’ve been thinking about you a lot over the last few months.
I guess it’s true what they say; I’ve met a few people since we parted ways, and each person reminded me of what I lost; each person reminded me of you in some way.”

If you want to sound kinder, this is the text message that you should send. You can sound romantic as well, which can work in your favor.
In fact, this text message can help to fight against her rude or defensive behavior. Not to mention, no apologies are needed.


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14“I am sorry for the way I treated you, and I feel regret about it every day. In fact, I’ve been thinking a lot about second chances, Barbara. I would like a second chance at loving you if you’ll let me. “
This text message can work because it starts with an apology and acknowledgment of the mistakes made in the past.
Then, it directly addresses what you really want to say, and it’s expressed in a romantic way. Any girl would surely appreciate that.


15“No one feels worse about the way that we broke up, Tori. I have had endless nightmares for weeks about it.
That being said, I am determined to win you back. I am positive that we can work something out this time.”

This text message expresses how determined and serious you are about winning her back, and it’s despite her rude response. It also positions you as someone who is assertive, and women tend to appreciate this.
As always, a little remorse for your contributions towards the breakup can go a long way. 


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Effective text messages to send to your ex-girlfriend: when she texts you back with an indifferent response


16“I know that you must be over us, but I hope you know that I am so sorry for the way things ended. I’m sorry for how I acted.
I am about to request something of you, and I need you to think rationally before giving an answer.”

If you don’t want to sound pathetic or too apologetic, given her indifferent response, this is the kind of text message that you’ll want to send her.
It shows that you understand why she is indifferent, but it emphasizes that you’re serious about your request to get back together.


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17“I miss you, Joanie. I know somewhere, deep inside, that you miss me too.”
Whether or not she misses you, and whether or not she can admit it, this is the kind of text message that will capture her attention. If you’re lucky, it may even trick her into replying to you.
Some women like to emphasize how much they hate their ex-partners, but you can charm her during the conversation with this message.



18“Cameron, I hope you’re doing great, and I mean that for your business too. Rest assured, I am reaching out to you with no hard feelings, just good vibes.
In fact, if you don’t mind, could we possibly catch up this Saturday night and talk about our current relationship? I’ll be in your city from Friday to Sunday.”

This text message works because there is no dilly-dallying around the subject. You sound like you care about her life, but you also sound relaxed.
This works best if you broke up amicably with the person. 


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Effective text messages to send to your ex-girlfriend: when she doesn’t reply to your first text message


19“Jill, I know that you’re still mad at me for what happened between us, and you have the right to be. That being said, I really need to tell you something important.”
This text message works because it uses an opening line that expresses your guilt about the situation between you two.
Hinting at something important also adds a sense of urgency that may encourage her to answer your text quickly.


20“Hey now, don’t be like that. I am a changed man now. If you must know, I am not backing down until I get a response from you.”
This text message works because it shows how serious you are. To your ex-partner, you may start appearing to her as someone who is determined to get a point across. When you mention being a changed man, it can inspire your ex-girlfriend to respond.


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21“Polly, if you still use this number, please get back to me. You’re right for not wanting to speak to me, but I am asking for a second chance.
All I’m asking is for a couple of minutes of your time, and that’s all.”

This text message will get you a response, and it’ll likely be because it promises that you won’t take too much of her time.
It acknowledges how you might have hurt her, which is an added bonus for her.



If you must get your ex-girlfriend back, you will need to play to win. The safest route back into your ex’s arms is a series of good, well-thought-out, and affectionate text messages from you.
You don’t need to worry if you do not possess a natural talent for crafting such romantic or enticing text messages.
The sample text messages to send to your ex-girlfriend above are suggestions that you are free to use whenever you need them.