No one is incapable of being wrong sometimes. As a man, you owe it to your girlfriend to show her that you can put all egos aside and apologize when you have offended her. When a simple apology is given as at when due it can make right a lot of wrongs. One of the unhealthiest actions to take in a relationship is to allow a situation or argument go cold before giving an apology or before trying to address it. Know when to apologize, don’t abuse the words-I am sorry, you don’t necessarily have to undermine yourself or deprive yourself of self-respect just to look apologetic. And you most definitely do not have to be sarcastic with your apology either. It is best said when you know or feel you have truly wronged. Here is a quick guide for how to apologize to your girlfriend.
What you should pay attention to when trying to apologize to you girlfriend
If there is some form of distance between you and your girlfriend, probably a distant relationship and you really need to apologize to her, you can write it out in words; like a text or an email. After that, you can put a call forward. Although most times it is better to say it face to face in person. You can decide to make it more romantic by adding a bouquet of flowers, writing it into a poem, or inscribing it on a card. If you still can’t seem to get across to her, you can try going through your mutual friends or close family members.
This is referring to the real issue at hand. When you apologize, try to dissect the real cause of the dispute and anger. It is one thing to say “I am sorry for what I did” and another to say “I am sorry I could not make it to your graduation”.
Most times just saying I’m sorry is not enough. Even when you say “I am sorry I could not make it to your graduation” it is still not enough. Take out time to explain when you apologize, you owe it to her to give real and genuine reasons why you could not make it. If there is something in your mind now is a good time to let her know. If you feel that the scenario might repeat itself again include it in your apology, so there won’t be any further need for you to apologize all over should it happen again, instead, there would be an established understanding. Avoid lies at all cost, when you say something that is not true it makes it hard for you to make up supporting facts to vindicate yourself. So whatever the outcome might be, at least you know you said the truth and eventually she would know it too.
It is normal for your girlfriend’s temper to rise when there is an argument or when she feels wronged. Some people get gloomy, cool, or just want to be alone even after an apology is given while some others show their anger through their body language and sometimes even get violent. Best thing is to study the mood of your girlfriend, hold or cuddle her while you apologize and give her some time to calm down if needed.
It is possible for a situation to get so out of hand and twisted that even you might be in awe as to what you did wrong. In this case there is nothing wrong with you asking questions instead of just assuming and coming up with wrong conclusions. Try to make her explain what you did wrong.
Apology examples for what you SAID
Apology examples for what you DID
Conclusion on how to apologize to your girlfriend
Apologizing to your girlfriend does not make you less of a man, instead, it makes you more desirable by your partner. Every woman longs for a man who will treat her as a queen. If you have an angry girlfriend and you have just read this article then you most likely by now know how to apologize to your girlfriend. Another thing to keep in mind is that you would need to be patient; it is not advisable to apologize and demand a quick answer or hasty decision. And if the initial reply from her is not favorable to you then give her reasonable time to come around. You should be able to differentiate when your girlfriend is angry and when she is just seeking your attention. You don’t have to apologize for every minuscule nag or complain she makes, if that happens then it should be addressed accordingly.
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