Liking a guy is easy, but how to ask a guy out is the tricky part. Fear of being rejected, fear of coming off as desperate or simply not knowing what to say, are the main reasons why most of us avoid asking guys out altogether.
But what if you were given some cool ways to ask him out, so you wouldn’t have to put much thought into it? Here are 30 cool texts for how to ask a guy out that you can even use in face to face interactions without either of you feeling awkward:
How to Ask a Guy Out Through Text
We’ve all written and deleted texts to a guy we like before because we have felt they weren’t good enough. Need some help? Here’s how to ask a guy out
It isn’t uncommon for people to hang out outside of where they live, especially with a group of friends. It can easily be considered a coincidence that you’re in his area.
Whatever the case may be, this text won’t feel awkward because you have a genuine reason for being close by. Plus, there will be other people around so it won’t seem too intimate, making him more likely to accept the invitation
This text is better suited for guys who are more straightforward and confident. He will appreciate your forwardness so you won’t have to worry about it being awkward for either of you.
It’s best to use this text after you guys have been talking for a while, and feel more comfortable with each other.
If you guys are talking about an interesting topic the conversation would be much better had in person. This will seem reasonable to him so the invitation won’t be awkward at all.
If you guys are already friends, this approach is perfect. It is simple and to the point and doesn’t seem like there are any strings attached. This could keep you in the friend zone though, if you do it together frequently.
This type of text is best suited for people who have been talking long distance. Say for instance you met the guy at the airport and exchanged numbers if you are in town it wouldn’t be weird for you to ask him out again.
‘Spot’ can refer to anything, from the place you met, a place you both like or even an inside joke. If you suggest meeting up somewhere you are both familiar with, it will completely remove any awkwardness from the situation.
This can work because it isn’t really a question, but more of a statement. The success really depends on the type of guy.
This type of text message is one that cannot stand alone. It must flow with the conversation.
Say for instance you volunteer at a pet shelter in the afternoons, or take walks in the park after work. When you mention this and he says it sounds cool, you can use the opportunity to invite him to spend an evening with you.
Even if you guys aren’t familiar, who is going to turn you down on your birthday? It’s a communal event so it won’t be too awkward for either of you.
You can even invite him to cut your cake with you!
This type of message is not awkward for either of you because it is so casual. Unlike dinner, lunch is just lunch and doesn’t require either of you to dress up or go somewhere fancy.
You will both feel more relaxed and the pressure of being on a date will be virtually non-existent.
If you both have busy work schedules, this is a great way to get him to go out with you. After all, it might be impossible for him to go bowling on a Tuesday night, so a coffee break is only logical.
If you are new to the area, a great way to get a guy to go out with you is asking them where something is. If he knows where it is, chances are he will be willing to take you there.
If you both busy and take a very long time to reply to each other, it can kind of kill the vibe. Use this to your advantage!
If he realizes it too, he will jump at this opportunity.
This kind of text will probably only work if you guys live close to each other. It can also come off as pushy if he isn’t interested in coming over.
For students, a study session is probably the easiest way to get a guy to go out with you, especially if you can help each other with assignments.
You can suggest meeting up at the library so it won’t be too awkward.
Through Text And Face To Face
Here is how to ask a guy out through texts that can also work in face to face conversations
Using something you guys are both interested in is foolproof. It is very common for sports fans to watch games together and talk about them.
Maybe you can modify this text to ask him to come over to your place, or even to invite yourself over to his!
Asking someone to join you at a new place that just opened is completely ordinary. No pressure.
If you happen to run into him at work or school, you can also use this text to get him to go out with you.
Who doesn’t love the Avengers? This will be a guaranteed yes!
Having friends come along certainly takes the date impression out of his head, so feel free to use this on any guy! Plus, you can use this text in real life.
Talking through text just doesn’t provide the same opportunities as speaking face to face does. If he is interested in you, you can expect a yes.
If you are talking in a public place, use this opportunity to make an excuse to ‘get away from the noise’, or that ‘it’s too crowded in here’. This way, you can get him all to yourself.
If he had mentioned it before and hasn’t brought it up since he’s probably just as nervous as you are. Text this to him, or say it to his face.
This type of approach will work best on guys who enjoying the outdoors and being active. Hikes burn some calories, invigorate your mind and body and allows you to have an easy flow of conversation.
This approach is more of a follow up to something in your conversation. For example, if you guys are discussing favorite foods, cuisine or restaurants, you could slide this in there without it being considered awkward.
If the guy you are interested in has shown signs of being interested in you but is a bit shy, this might be a good approach. Here’s why:
He will finally be able to breathe a sigh of relief now that that’s out of the way, and since he likes you, he’ll be pleased to know that you like him enough to take the first step!
If it is the summer holidays for those still in school, or if it’s the weekend/holidays and you have time off work, going to a relaxing place isn’t out of the ordinary.
Just make sure you use this with a guy who you have already been properly acquainted with and not one you just met or else it might be a bit too forward or awkward.
If the guy has been asking you out for a while but you were not able to find the time, then this is one way to ask him out. After all, it was his idea, you’re just finally agreeing to it.
This is a classic, yet effective line, especially if you know he enjoys the performer.
There’s nothing wrong with a coworker inviting another coworker out for drinks after a stressful work week. If he is as tired and worn out like you, he will jump at this invitation.
And, even if he isn’t he must be tired of being in the office all the time.
If either of you has some good news, it’s natural to want to celebrate. Using this opportunity, you ask him on a date will work only if he is a drinker, and if he isn’t you can alter ‘drink’ to a food spot, say tacos or frozen yogurt
If you are talking about something such as a movie or a destination, you can bring up their cuisine as a way to ask him on a date. It can be Chinese, Mexican, Caribbean, whatever! If he’s as interested as you are, he’ll definitely say yes!
The weather is always great for small talk, but you can use it to your advantage when asking a guy out.
You could also switch good weather here, to bad weather, and invite him over for some hot chocolate and smores if it is cold outside.
It won’t be awkward because it is only a friendly invite, and it makes sense.
Knowing how to ask a guy out is all about confidence. You can make the first move if you are interested, because sometimes, you need to take the lead!
Now that you have 30 different ways to ask him out, what are you waiting for? Go for it!