We all know the feeling of rejection. At some point in our lives, we surely experienced the pain of being considered “not worthy” or “not good enough” and we do not want to bestow it on another person, right?
That being said, there are times when it just won’t work with a guy – and you have to find a way to reject him without hurting his feelings. Knowing how to reject a guy nicely has its own merits. Aside from avoiding the dreaded “She is a total cold hearted A-hole” reputation, you can also gain a friend, instead of losing one if you reject them harshly.
The best route to reject a guy
Seriously though, if you are going to reject a guy then doing it via text messaging is the best route. First of all, you are turning someone down – and they might react negatively.
In case they do, you don’t want to be around them as they are soothing their bruised egos – give them time to work through their let down, and you avoid possible confrontation.
Do not leave him hanging for more when rejecting a guy
If you know how to reject a guy in a nice way, they will not reject the friendship that you are offering. Just make sure that you don’t mislead them and leave them hanging for more – be assertive that you only want friendship.
Most of the time, you have to make him see that it is not him that is the problem – it is you (and your lack of interest to turn your friendly relationship into a romantic one).
To help you out, here are a list of the effective texts that you can use to reject a guy nicely – and still stay friends afterwards.
How to reject a guy nicely: 25 effective texts
01It’s not you, it’s me
“Hey, (guy’s name) the problem is not you. It’s me. I feel like I am really in a tight spot right now and I do not want to be in a relationship because I am not yet ready. Again, the problem is not you, it’s me.”
02School matters, study first
“Hi (guy’s name) I am sorry to put it like this right now, but school matters to me and I would really love it if we can still be friends. I am just too busy with my studies right now and I don’t want to add more pressure to you and to myself. I just don’t want you to think that I reject you as a person – I just want to focus on studies right now.”
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03Similar yet different
“(guy’s name) we have very different personalities but I really think that it would be great if we can still share our similar passion for the art, even if we can’t be a couple. I really liked that we both love Van Gogh, and that’s a fact – I really do not want to reject your friendship and our shared passions too J”
04Too busy for some lovin’
“You are really a nice guy (guy’s name) but honestly, I am working 3 jobs, and honestly feel like I don’t even have time for me – if I were you, I’d be rejecting me! I’m sorry I am just not ready.”
05Need more time for myself
“Hi (guy’s name), I am really thankful for all your nice words and your compliments, but I really need more time to figure out myself first. I am not sure if I want to be in a relationship right now, I am sure you understand, right?”
06Crazy girl
“(guy’s name) I am really sorry to tell you this, but you won’t really like me when you get to know me. Why? Because I am crazy. I do crazy, weird things – and it might make you feel uncomfortable. I think that we can still be friends though – I don’t want to reject the friendship of someone as nice as you.”
07Not the girl for you
“I appreciate your attention – I really do. But (guy’s name) I feel like I am not really the right girl for you. I have my own difficult times to deal with right now, and I feel like I am not in a position to put that burden on someone else.”
08Strict parents
“(guy’s name) you are a great guy and I am sure someone will be proud to have you as a partner one day. However, I am not really looking for a romantic relationship right now – my parents are strict, and they want me to focus on studying first.”
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09Plenty of fish in the sea
“(guy’s name) you are a smart, intelligent and caring guy – and I love all those traits about you. But I want to live my own life right now, and I do not want to have a relationship just yet. There are plenty of fish in the sea for a guy with your qualities – I do not want you to think I am rejecting you completely, I just don’t think we are a good match.”
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10Bully big brother
“I don’t want to scare you, or anything, but my brother is really a big bully who doesn’t like me getting into a relationship – just yet. He is so protective and I just don’t want the two of us to break our friendship because of a romantic relationship that I want the two of us to lose our friendship because he sees what we need to see – we aren’t ready for a romantic relationship. I hope you understand that this is not a personal reject coming from me.”
“(guy’s name) I am truly saddened by your proposal. I truly am. Not because I hate you – but because I am just not ready to plunge into a relationship right now. Can we still be friends after this so I won’t be too sad?”
12I am a time bomb
“You know what (Guy’s name), I am just a ticking time bomb, waiting to explode. And you really don’t want to be around when that happens. If you can accept me this way, and be patient with me, I’d like us to stay friends.”
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13The breadwinner
“(Guy’s name) as you know, I have 2 little sisters that rely on me for their school allowance, and I have to work 3 jobs just to make the ends meet. I can’t add any more burden and pressure to myself – but I hope we can still be friends because I do not want to reject your friendship.”
14Me and my broken self
“(Guy’s name) I know that this might come off as an excuse, but I just recently got out of a very toxic relationship. To be honest with you, I just want to repair myself right now – and having another romantic relationship will not help. However, your friendship is something that I really enjoy – I hope we can still stay friends.”
15To be honest
“(Guy’s name) to be honest with you, it has been fun hanging out as friends. However, I really don’t feel a romantic connection between us, and I’d really appreciate it if we can still keep our friendship”
16Going straight to the point
“Hi (Guy’s name), I am going out on a limb here but I just want to say that I really enjoy exchanging chats and texts with you. However, I really don’t feel like taking things to the next level right now – so I am just going to be straight to the point. Can we still be friends?”
17Just a brother to me
“(Guy’s name), it was nice hanging out with you and I really love that we have a budding friendship going on. But, truthfully, I only see you as my older / younger brother and nothing more. I hope you understand and we can still stay as friends.”
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18No misleading
“Hi (guy’s name), I’ve been thinking for a while now that we really have a great friendship going, but after what you said last night I just don’t want to mislead you. I feel like we can be very good friends, but not so much as a couple. Are you still up for a friendship?”
19Daddy’s girl
“(guy’s name) thank you for your attention and compliments, I really appreciate them and I want to thank you for being such nice company. But my daddy is in the army and he really doesn’t like me having a relationship right now… perhaps a friendship could be nice instead?”
“(guy’s name), you are an awesome person and I know that you know that too. However, there is no chemistry between us and I do not feel like a romantic relationship is in bloom. Can we still be friends and not reject each other after this?”
21Better off without me
“Hi (guy’s name) I just want to say that I appreciate your proposal last night. However, I would like to say that you are better off without me because (put your reason here) and I really think that I would not be able to reciprocate your attention right now. I hope that you understand.”
22Buddy, not boyfriend
“It just came to me that I see you more as a buddy and not as a boyfriend – which is not bad! We just lack that romantic spark that you see in movies – but I hope that we can still stay friends after this.”
23No time for love
“(guy’s name) I just want to be straight as an arrow with you – I don’t have time for a relationship right now. With the midterms coming, my jobs waiting and some little siblings relying on me – having a relationship just won’t cut it right now and I hope you understand.”
24I’m going on a trip
“(guy’s name) I am going on a trip to (name of place) next week and although I would love to still be in contact, I might be busy because – you know me, I am quite the avid traveler. As much as I want to spend more time and get to know each other, I don’t think that would be possible with my schedule. I hope that you understand the situation.”
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25Dating someone else
“Hi (guy’s name) I don’t want it to appear like I was leading you on, but I am currently dating someone else right now. I really feel that our friendship was great though – and it felt really nice hanging out with you. I hope you don’t mind if we can still keep our friendship, I’d like that.”
