If you’ve heard the saying “apologizing makes you weak”, I hope you know it is wrong. In actuality, an apology is a strong tool to show maturity; it shows you are strong enough to take the blame or mature enough to admit your part, so, what do you do when you need to write an apology letter to mom? Read on and find out.
Outline to writing an apology letter to mom
Yes, we know you have a lot of things to say but please be as specific as possible about what it is you are apologizing for. This doesn’t only clear the air, but it also shows that you can acknowledge exactly what it was you believe you did wrong.
It’s always tempting to let her know you probably had a motive behind whatever you did, however, when writing an apology letter, including your motive would only seem like an excuse. Accept responsibility and leave it at that.
This is very important in an apology letter, after letting her know how sorry you are for whatever happened, ask her to forgive you. Doing this is sending her a direct and specific signal to let bygones be bygones.
Apology letter to mom for when you said something very hurtful to her:
I can’t begin to imagine how much I hurt you when I said I regretted having you as a mom. I know it must have made a big hole in your heart and dented your feelings towards me. I just kept talking and talking, saying all those hurtful and wrong things I should never have said to you in any lifetime, mom.
Saying I wish I was an orphan and watching your reaction made me realize how much of a mistake I made, and I have felt regretful about it ever since.
I am so sorry mom and I am writing this to express how bad I feel and how I wish you would forgive me. None of what I said came from my heart and I promise to make it up to you the best way I can if you would only forgive me.
I know the extent of what I said, and I know they are not things to easily forgive, or forget, but I am here waiting patiently.
I love you mom, I always have and always will; you are the best mom any child could ask for.
Apology letter to mom for when you did something very bad and embarrassed her:
I know I am probably the last person you want to hear from right now after I walked out on you at the party last night. I know how much embarrassment I caused you with my unruly behavior.
Honestly, I have nothing to say to excuse my actions – I am not trying to do so, but I cannot find the words to express how ridiculous and apologetic I feel.
You have always been there for me, trying to make my life comfortable and I repaid you with hurt and shame. I know right now you are probably asking yourself where you went wrong with me, what you did to deserve such embarrassment, where you took a wrong turn with me, and if you have failed as a mother. I can only tell you I am sorry mom.
I am sorry for always falling short of your expectations, I am sorry for all the pain I have caused you, and I am begging for your forgiveness. I had no right to act the way I did and I realize it all now. I love you mom and you will always be my bedrock.
Letter for when you regret not listening to your mom’s advice:
I know that this is coming late.
I do not know how else to say this Mom but I am so sorry. I am not saying this because I feel bad that I was absolutely wrong, and you were right; I am saying it because even if I really didn’t want your advice, I could have at least done so without offending you or ignoring you.
I realize there is more wisdom in the advice you give me than I know, do forgive me.
I cannot even begin to imagine the hurt you must feel watching me do the very things you warned me of and falling victim to the very scenario you tried to prevent me from.
I love you now, forever and always.
Apology letter to mom for being rebellious:
There are some things I need to say to you, but I can’t bring myself to say it to your face. I know it is not news to you that I have been arrogant, childish and ego headed.
What effect these actions of mine have on you, or how they make you feel as a mother, I could never understand, at least not until I have kids of my own.
You might be tired of hearing me ask for your forgiveness but, please forgive me. Right now, I feel broken and sad. I acted very childish, and I feel like I have betrayed not only myself, but you. I have decided to go back to school, stay away from those toxic friends, complete my degree and, I promise to make you proud.
Everything you do for me you do out of good thoughts and love. It might take me time to adjust, to realize it and value it, but every day for as long as I live, I will cherish you with the utmost adoration, respect, and love, because I know only a mother like you would be able to love a rebellious child like me.
I am so sorry mom. I am so so sorry.
Apology letter to mom for when you made her so mad she doesn’t want to see you anymore:
I know over and over I have offended you and over and over I have used the words “I am sorry”. This time even I know that those words do not cut it.
I have seen other parents treat their kids with disdain over little things, and I have watched how the relationship between mother and child can be severed beyond repair; how each party goes their own way and end up not to speaking to each other for decades. Sometimes when one party decides to say “I am sorry” it might be too late.
I do not want to be in that place where I look back and I can’t remember the last time I spoke to you. I know you have said you do not want to see me anymore and yes, I deserve it. If I were in your shoes, I do not know what my reaction would be, or what I would do going forward.
Please know, whether we settle this issue now, or you require some more time, know I would never in my life stop loving you. I am too ashamed to repeat the words “I am sorry”, but I am, so please forgive me.
Whether you are a mother who has been wronged or you are a child who has wronged their mother, if you are reading this, it means you want to mend the situation. To be forgiven is delightful but to forgive is even more beautiful.
Whichever end of the line you find yourself on right now, bear in mind that peace and love between a mother and child are irreplaceable.
Having read these examples of apology letters, I believe you can work on maintaining your bond, in the face of any fight.